Don't choose the wrong partner, as it will be difficult to return home.

An article by: Aishvara Michelle.

In a sea of people, there will be one person who becomes our soul mate. This is the first step  in determining the choice of partner. According to Developmental Process Theories, choosing  a partner is a process of filtering people who do not meet the criteria or requirements for  someone to be their life partner. The process of choosing a life partner will be carried out by  every individual who basically looks for a life partner who can complement the needs of the  individual himself (DeGenova, 2008: 10).  

Of course, the selection of a partner depends on the human’s self-esteem. Clark (2002: 33)  argues that feeling valued, valuable, and loved are basic human needs arranged in a hierarchy,  although the way they are fulfilled is not always the same. Individuals who accept their social  environment because they are also accepted by their social environment. Meanwhile, according  to Coopersmith (1968: 15) states that self-esteem is a form of self-assessment carried out by  individuals and is usually related to themselves, this assessment will later reflect the attitude of  acceptance or rejection of themselves, it will also show how far an individual believes that he  is capable, important, successful and valuable. 

Rosenberg et al. (1995: 141-156) argue that self-esteem consists of two aspects, namely self respect and self-acceptance. These 2 aspects have five points of view, namely: Academic point  of view which refers to the way a person thinks about the quality of education, social point of  view which refers to a person's perception of his social relationships, emotional point of view  which is an individual's emotional relationship, family point of view which refers to how an  individual involves himself in the family, physical point of view, refers to how an individual  interprets his physical condition. 

Coopersmith (1968: 15) explains that self-esteem can be influenced by certain factors, namely:  Awards received, Level of success, Life experience, Support from the family environment,  Social environment, Psychiatric or psychological factors, and gender.

If we already understand the importance of self-esteem, we are unlikely to lower our standards  for the sake of loneliness not having a partner. Lowering your standards makes you unhappy,  trapped in unhealthy relationships, and trapped in social pressure. Be sure to check your  partner's background and always maintain boundaries in your personal life. Remember, your  whole self is already perfect. Your partner is just a complement to your happiness. However,  true happiness lies within you. Let's love ourselves in a healthy way and create a peaceful life  for others!

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